Sabri Header1 Sabri Hakim: Regarding those labeled as "7afartaly".

Thursday, December 08, 2005

Regarding those labeled as "7afartaly".

Inspired by Lulus' comment,

I feel exactly the same, seeing how someone else paints, draws or writes allows viewers a view of their minds, that's a privilege. All human experiences are unique and worthy of sharing. Things can still be beautiful even when they don't appeal to us. We must learn to appreciate all things. Especially here in Amman where classes are gaping further and concepts are evolving.

Think of a local female, veiled and poor living in the Balad (downtown) and falls in love with a man selling gum down the street, it is a love story, its just as good as any another. See the beauty in it. See how her own definition of seduction and creation of temptation is; think about her waking up looking at the mirror dumping on loads of different shades of red and green makeup to look more beautiful, to her, to him, this is how a female impresses a guy.

Instead of the lame comments many make about how far she is from the civil western world, or how a veiled girl (most likely forced) wears makeup! People should become appreciative of our locals, think about the gum selling lad, he sees her every now and then, he shows off to his friends about knowing her. He fantasizes about her in those cloths and this make up, and prays her father allow that they marry. To him she is beauty, to me that's beauty as well.

Many people here in Amman have come to only intercept one standard of beauty. Beauty and art are diverse; they are in everything even in those they label as"7afartaly". Those using such terms are should be suffocated for they suffocate me. (Someone please translate the term). Noura commented beautifully on a photo I took of “Fashion in Madaba” I recommend you read.

Appreciate Jordanian culture, this is what I try to do, this is what I try to understand, and this is what makes visits to different places in Jordan more enjoyable and rewarding. Photographing beauty in the eye of the beautiful. People should seek beauty in everything to appreciate this country and culture; after all it is not the culture of the upper class that makes this country beautiful.

Paulo Coelho is not my favorite author, but in his book the Alchemist, in the introduction, he spoke about how the most genuine alchemists are those that do not know recognize they were, beauty can implied on locals in a similar way.

Beauty is in the door mans un-matching winter clothing, in the loads of gel on a paper boys hair, in the fonts of Arabic love letters have, in golden teeth, in the Ja3ed on Taxis, in the gangsters tone of car maintenance personals, in Ridaky ya Oumy stickers, in how people mix the pronunciations of B and P.
What do you think?
I leave you with this picture now It was meant for another post, but I thought it serverd here a higher purpose.


18 Comments:

Anonymous SC said...

I think I can't agree more Sabri :)

December 08, 2005 8:45 AM  
Anonymous Rami Arafat said...

Beautifull, just beautifull

December 08, 2005 10:08 AM  
Anonymous omarymous said...

القرد بعين أمه غزال

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

December 08, 2005 10:52 AM  
Blogger Tololy said...

That was so inspiring.

December 08, 2005 10:55 AM  
Anonymous Khalidah said...

Sabri ...
I salute you ...
I once told you that I like seeing things through your eyes because they actually look different and that's the whole point
We need more of you wallah

December 08, 2005 11:47 AM  
Anonymous Laith Zraikat said...

Thank you Sabri, you are touching on a very important issue here which is the judgmental mentality of a lot of the people in our country. Be it from the city towards the village or vice versa, we all suffer as a result. You talked about beauty, but you also mentioned things like the way people sound when they talk and what bumper stickers they like.

We have all had an encounter where we meet someone and upon first look, we quickly pass judgment that they are "7afartaly" or "nawary" or something of that sort, and then after really knowing the person, they become our best friends.

December 08, 2005 11:53 AM  
Blogger Dar said...

well , i was the fist one who commented on yr previous post about " Madaba's Fashion " but i hope that u didnt understand me wrong i was just making fun of the Post Title :)with no offense to any other things which u have mentioned
Cheerz !

December 08, 2005 2:47 PM  
Anonymous promises said...

How inspiring this sounds but how Ideal it is somehow...

I do agree with every single word you said, but it kind of reminds me of Gibran khalil Gibran and how he picutres everthing in life with a rosy shade...


There are things in life that are just as they are (I dont mean 7afartali here), if we all have the same onlook at things and the same onlook on beauty we'd all end up wearing the same clothes, the same look, the same appearance.There will no longer be any individuality!

I think the most important thing (in the issue you adrressed) is not demeaning the people in ones onlook and not judging them just according to their appearance...

December 08, 2005 3:23 PM  
Anonymous tala m. said...

promises, I dont think that was what sabri was saying, he said quite the opposite, he is saying that you shouldnt follow others and their means of beauty. also said that some things are beautiful even if they dont apeal to us, also he said he is trying to undersand and appreciate the difference. he didnt say he wanted to change anything but appreciate it as it is.

great entry

December 08, 2005 6:12 PM  
Blogger lulu said...

Sabri - First, I'm honored to be the inspiration for your post.
Second, it's as though you read my mind when I was writing the comment, although I didn't want to go into detail at the time. My heart is singing right now reading your words, for you have expressed something that I have thought about MANY times. What is beauty, and what is beautiful? I truly believe, as you've said, that there is beauty in everything in this world. A crooked smile is still a smile that is inspired by the beautiful human feeling of happiness. A small, weak, and perhaps almost colorless and odorless flower growing between the cracks of a sidewalk's concrete slabs is still beautiful in its tenacity and search for life. It angers me when people deny their own culture in order to conform to a 'universal' standard of beauty. Thanks Sabri, and sorry for the long comment!

December 08, 2005 10:14 PM  
Blogger M!R@CHK@ said...

Great post sabri i really enjoyed reading it :)

December 09, 2005 12:33 AM  
Anonymous abdelstar alslimat said...

V good thank you.

December 09, 2005 3:58 AM  
Blogger Rania said...

"Photographing beauty in the eye of the beautiful." I have always felt this about your work... Every detail is a manifestation of beauty, every picture tells a story, every face, every expression speaks with an attraction that can't be ignored... and it's only because you see it that way. Art is about portraying things not the way they are, but the way our eyes perceive them. "Beauty is simply reality seen with the eyes of love".

Thank you for this post. This is something I'll be thinking about for some time. I hope I learn to see things differently.

December 09, 2005 10:37 AM  
Blogger ghaloosh said...

if we start seeing things differently then we might enjoy the tiniest detail in our life...

December 09, 2005 11:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Rafa3et rasi abu shreek.

Sabri I’d like to pinpoint another aspect of western Amman naïve people by asking those questions.
Why is a baggy accepted in Jordan as a fashion? Even though it’s a lower class aspect in the states for some people there (construction men who usually wear baggy pants).

Why do we have always to party and show off with drinking and getting drunk aspect (wallah kunt sakraann , wallah en3amait)? While in the states the legal age of alcohol consumption is 21 and western communities never make a big deal out of it as much as we do; now it’s a show off to get drunk in our awkward society. The guys show off the next morning with their hangover. What is cool about it, don’t they have anything else to talk about, maybe cause its so easy to get drunk and its so easy to show off about it to spend hours on the same lame conversations laughing on their experienced wild moments while wasted. (Of course it ends with a fight).

Let me go back to the core of your topic, sabri am sure you have heard people making fun of those who drive on the airport road and start their BBQ, well many people cant afford going out to fancy restaurants on Thursday nights, also many of them live in small houses that don’t have gardens, for them; its such an experience and an exotic night to sit under a green tree and enjoy spacious play grounds with the kids. I don’t think they care about the “dark night clubs” or the “crazy music” wallahi ya sabri they enjoy going out there more than any party that might mean so much to anyone of us.

Please appreciate life.

MNT

December 09, 2005 3:56 PM  
Blogger Bill said...

I injoyed your post, it was very insightful of your culture. and you would surpised how many simialrites you can find around tthe world not nothig exactly like it.

I have grown up in the great northwest of america. I have been surounded by so many cultures and views in my life, even though I have not done very much traveling.

I have evn had the privilage to attend a cross cultral training class. and diversity is beauty.

You can even look at the contrast between africa sivanna and the Great northwest. Both are very beautiful yet extremely different. just the landscape alone! let alone the people.

I have seen beauty in butchering a deer when many here in the U.S find it repulsive to mention the word. I have seen beauty expressed in so many ways, from painting to building, from science to cleaning a toilet. and from fire to water, living and the dead, from poetry to rap, There is so much.

Now each of us have are personal taste, witch shows beauty in it's own ways.

But I will say there are pure ugly or evil things out there but that is a different topic I think.

I do injoy you blog and I hope to see more of you updates.

December 09, 2005 9:55 PM  
Anonymous Hassan said...

If some people view some Jordanians as 7afartal, they should seriously come to the U.S. I have never met so many uncivilized people living in a rich and prosperous nation like the US. Don’t let MTV and Hollywood deceive you. The majority of Americans don't even live the lifestyle you see on TV.

I have lived here in the US long enough to have realized how really civilized the Jordan culture is, except in west Amman where many try to copy the American life style. A lot of Americans are polite and respectful, but many are just plain nasty and gross in their habits.

So often have I witnessed a situation here that I thought of how I've never seen something like this happen anywhere in Jordan.

But the sad truth is those who label people based on a photo are as ignorant as they can get since they haven’t met that person yet to find out his/her character.

As hard as some Jordanians try to imitate the American culture seen through TV, believe it or not that many Americans here are attempting the same thing in vain. The “coolness” that they are looking for is ultimately just an idea shared only by the holder. And those who judge people based on their appearance are usually self conscious, “nagseen.”

After meeting people of all levels of society here as well as all level of “coolness”, I so long for people like those in Sabri’s photos. Something about people who don’t follow today’s trends just tells you that they are busy worrying about something else. Probably more important than wearing Diesel shoes.

My heart aches every time I think about the class segregation in Jordan. I swear we don’t deserve prosperity.

December 14, 2005 5:12 AM  
Blogger cheesemeister said...

The men in the truck appear to be happy and that's nice. It gives happiness to others seeing it.
I like the message of your post about finding beauty in what may appear ordinary or mundane.
Peace.

December 15, 2005 1:58 PM  

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